Fearleaders! What a great way to describe these fascinating frequencies. Ive had a humbling winter of shedding - coming to clarity about the dynamics of relationships in my life. N O T I C I N G the energy underneath the engagements and the sneaky shadow contracts that seed the fear/chaos/pain/trauma loops. Ive been deep in an ask for myself... Where are my cheerleaders? Nature, children and pets seem to reliably BE the most authentic space to be received in our Wholeness, without love morphing into some distorted expression. "Fearleaders" - makes a chuckle out of what could feel like a total bummer. Thanks for the smile :-)
Ah I'm so grateful to have you here Rhiannon! Thanks for this generous reflection. Such a gift for me to have these wonderings turned into conversations.
Your comment has given me a lot to think about - shadow contracts and the energy underneath engagements...do you write on this? I'd love to read more. The clarity around dynamics has been big for me too. Some relationships feeling a bit too much like an episode of Blue's Clues. It's been good to draw some boundaries for myself.
I learned the phrasing and the idea behind the phrasing "shadow contracts" from Amanda Flaker - here is a youtube video of her explaining her perspective:
I haven't discovered a better way to describe the hidden commitments we make within our relationship dynamics, the roles we embody and the wounding we uphold that tangles us under the surface. Shadow Contracts as a way to name that insanity sure feels like it fits! My work certainly explores the shadow aspects of our being - as one facet of the converging energies that make up our Wholeness. I have a substack called Weaving Wisdom, and a podcast too :-)
Im going to email you an invite to a project I am working on! I think you may vibe with it 🌬🌀
Fearleaders! What a great way to describe these fascinating frequencies. Ive had a humbling winter of shedding - coming to clarity about the dynamics of relationships in my life. N O T I C I N G the energy underneath the engagements and the sneaky shadow contracts that seed the fear/chaos/pain/trauma loops. Ive been deep in an ask for myself... Where are my cheerleaders? Nature, children and pets seem to reliably BE the most authentic space to be received in our Wholeness, without love morphing into some distorted expression. "Fearleaders" - makes a chuckle out of what could feel like a total bummer. Thanks for the smile :-)
Ah I'm so grateful to have you here Rhiannon! Thanks for this generous reflection. Such a gift for me to have these wonderings turned into conversations.
Your comment has given me a lot to think about - shadow contracts and the energy underneath engagements...do you write on this? I'd love to read more. The clarity around dynamics has been big for me too. Some relationships feeling a bit too much like an episode of Blue's Clues. It's been good to draw some boundaries for myself.
I'm glad it made you smile!
Cheering you on!
Lysette
x
I learned the phrasing and the idea behind the phrasing "shadow contracts" from Amanda Flaker - here is a youtube video of her explaining her perspective:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Ah5rjY3Pe5U
I haven't discovered a better way to describe the hidden commitments we make within our relationship dynamics, the roles we embody and the wounding we uphold that tangles us under the surface. Shadow Contracts as a way to name that insanity sure feels like it fits! My work certainly explores the shadow aspects of our being - as one facet of the converging energies that make up our Wholeness. I have a substack called Weaving Wisdom, and a podcast too :-)
Im going to email you an invite to a project I am working on! I think you may vibe with it 🌬🌀